Expectation. Like anything in life when expectations are not aligned, the results follow. It is critical for you to find the right coach for you. That may be a certain industry, skills, language and most critically someone you like.
A high functioning coaching relationship should be based on trust, openness and a sense that you are on a journey together. There will be moments, if you dig deep enough that there won’t be any clear answers, apart from the discovery itself.
Don’t get distracted by too much labelling and testing. All great leadership is a learned skill through your design to grow and understand yourself more deeply.
Leadership is inherently human.